Our First Time Together

Once I landed at Lambert I was extremely calm.  I didn't see him, I was walking just checking out the people and the little stores, I was not expecting to see him at that part of the airport (he was waiting for me before the baggage claim area).  There he was, the tallest man ever waiving a welcome sign he did himself.  I was shocked.  All girls walking in front of me were: “awww...” I couldn't do anything but smile.


I had pictured that moment a thousand times, should I jump at him? Should I run to him? But if I do that, what is going to happen with my purse? My bag? Could someone steal it while we are kissing?  Well, none of the above, I did the boring smile and walk.  Once in front of each other he hugged me, we remained hugging for the longest time.  I felt uncomfortable, I had makeup on and I did not want to stain his shirt, I also felt shy, with all it was the first time I saw him personally.  After the hug he kissed me, it was ok, not great but ok.  The fear got in me, I did not know how to act, I didn't want to be weird but I did was embarrassed.  It was a very weird feeling, like I did know him in all aspects but I never had the chance to actually be with him physically. It was like pushing months of dating in one day.  He, in the other hand, was a gentleman.  He hold my hand, and gave me hugs, and small kisses, nothing to sexy or that I would consider him as pushing me.

He took me to Saint Louis, to do some tourism before going home.  After that we decided to go home...and I was super tired, after 21 hours between flights and waits I was destroyed. But ladies, we both were waiting for this night, after 1 year of not seeing each other (for me, you can easily add one more year of a pathetic no sex life). From Saint Lois to Saint Roberts is a 2 hours drive, and even though we were listening to hip hop and talking, the dark road, the night, I was done...I told him I wanted to take a nap until we got there.  All I could think of was: do not ruin this woman, you have to have some fun with him tonight! He said that it was ok, and told me to put my head on his lap, I was like: what? haha I did, and again, he was a gentleman. I slept like an hour, until he woke me up.  We weren't there yet but he said I had my hand in a weird position and he thought I was going to get a cramp so he moved me...yes, I was up, but still super tired.




We made it there. All I could think of was: "don’t ruin this...OMG, I would do anything for a red bull".  You see, after a year of waiting we both created huge expectations, and even though I told him I wanted the first night to be nice and slow, a romantic first time, we were in for a show.


I got out of the vehicle, and he then lift me, we crosses the door as a married couple.  When he turned the lights on, the living room table was full of gifts, wrapped by him, one for each day of my stay, plus hundreds of Hershey kisses (my favorites).  He showed me the apartment and then it was time...




I chose a not too sexy gown, black lace, good enough for the first time.  

…Well, it wasn't a perfect.  I’m a grown up, we are both divorced so we know about sex.  But it wasn't perfect.  We had a size problem.  The combination of me not being with anyone for such a long time and then his proportions did not help.  At a time it was causing me pain so we had to stop.  It was frustrating; next day we tried again, but the more we tried the more he hurt me, I wasn't helping neither since the thought of the pain was taking the spark out of it.  By the third day I was desperate, I began feeling it was my fault, I had a great man, which I liked, but could not give him anything.  All this time he was super supportive; he hugged me and told me it was ok, that we would figure it out.  Fuc*k that, I wasn't going to be there for ever, I had 10 days, and 3 were out.  I needed to make it.

So, I went down low, I made it. He had a good time, so that was a good signed. We decided to change the protection for something lighter, whatever that said extra sensitive.  We also got some lubricant to help me.  That was the key! on day five we finally made it, both of us had a happy ending :)




We began knowing each other more, and being able to do it more.  When we were on day eight we decided that time was going by too fast so he extended my ticket.  That gave us more time, but by the end of the second week we over did it...the sex was a little bit to aggressive and he made me bleed a bit, so we stop for 5 days...By the fifth I was still bleeding a bit and I was worried it was something worst, like it got me real worried but it was almost time for me to go so we decided were going to do it, be intimate again.  He didn’t want to at first because he wanted me to heal, but I could see the happiness going out of his face haha so I told him, I was good with it.  We made love, and afterwards I had the period. Thank you baby Jesus...




Besides our "getting to know each other better trauma" we had a great time. This man is super romantic and he is always pending of my needs.

 Like he knows how much I like to sleep so the days the room services needed to come in to change the sheets he would carry me from bed to the living room couch (in my sleep!) so she could do the room, he would go to the hotel’s breakfast area everyday for my breakfast and bring it back to the room before work, getting me a Starbucks on his way back home, cooking for me…is this man the best or what?!

Fort Leonard Wood: Marine's GF Survival Guide

Fort Leonard Wood is NOT a Marine's base ladies, I'm sorry, I was disappointed too.  I was so excited about getting to see what a Marine's base was but this was not going to be the case.  This is an Army’s base, and you get to hear the “Army Strong” thing, every time you get through that gate, haha.

Let me start from the beginning.  Fort Leonard Wood is located in the Missouri Ozarks and its main gate is located on the southern boundary of St. Robert.  There are 3 schools in this base, The Military Police Corps for the U.S. Army, the Chemical Corps for the U.S. Army and the Engineers Corps for the U.S. Army. That is why my bf was there, he is an engineer.

If you don't have a car, you will be stuck at the house all day until your man comes back from base.  There is NO public transportation in Saint Robert.  Yes, that blew my mind, I come from a big city in Europe and I don't think I have been to a small town here where there is no public transportation or a least one bus to take you to the center of the city.  There were some places nearby where we were staying, a dollar store and a furniture store...not much.  After one day you will be bored.  It could be good if you plan on taking your man to base so you can take the car and do something.

You will need an ID to get on base, and you CAN'T get in without being sponsored by your man, this is not negotiable.  It depends of the accuracy of the soldier at the gate, but they can deny you entry if your ID is overdue.  For foreign (like me), you will need a valid passport to show at the gate, the ID from your country of origin has no use there. 

Once inside the base, that thing is like a city.  They have everything in there, even a Starbucks!  For the PX you will need a military ID to be able to buy there, so make sure you go with your man.  Those stores are taxes free so you get to safe some money, and let me tell you they have good stuff there, perfumes like Gucci, Armani, Bath and Body works products, Victoria's Secret products, so its going to be like Christmas. The Gym is great, super big.  To get in there you need to be in the military or be sponsored by one.  While I was there (July 4th) they did something like a fair and it was open to civilians.   It was full of young girls, with little clothe on...I did not like that, but that could be me over thinking. It was a good opportunity for me see the cammies for the different branches; by now you should know that the Branches in the U.S. Arm forces use different cammies, being the Marine’s one the sexiest haha.

If you are looking for the typical "I love my Marine" things you wont have too much to choose from, since it is an Army's base it is focused on the Army, you will find one rack with Marine's stuff and not as close as cool as the Army's gfs one.  Don't expect to get much out of it.

Ok so if you are used to live in a big city Saint Roberts will kill you, its a dead town, you will have to help yourself with the cities nearby to have a good time.  This is what we did to have a memorable time:

I landed at Lambert-St. Louis International Airport (STL) which is like 20 minutes from Saint Louis, so we began there (yes, after 20 hours of traveling, I womened it up).

Saint Louis 

• Arc: The icon of St. Louis, MO is undoubtedly the Gateway Arch. America’s tallest national monument since 1965.  We ride the tram 630 ft. to the top, we also visited the Museum of Westward Expansion underneath the Arch showcases the Lewis & Clark Expedition.
• The 360 Rooftop Bar, at the Hilton Saint Louis, near the Busch stadium its located at downtown, we went there for something to eat and drink.  The 360 Rooftop Bar Soaring nearly 400 feet above downtown St. Louis, it is the ultimate rooftop bar and it offers sweeping views in all directions – hence the name – including a birds’ eye view right into Busch Stadium. With a cocktail in hand and a tasty bite to savor, it is the perfect perch to take in the Cardinals, the Gateway Arch, the mighty Mississippi and the sites of St. Louis near and far. Three Sixty has an extensive wine, beer and cocktail selection as well as a delicious assortment of small plate. After this we went to a little bar, we just chose one out of the blue to try some local beers; we had one and then left to Saint Roberts.

• Six Flags, this amusement park was good, I enjoyed the water rides very much.  The food is overpriced inside, so we took our food with us and left it in the truck.  You can come in and out of the park as many times as you want, just make sure they stamp your hand to ensure your re entry.

Saint Roberts:

• Cheers & Salud: this is a very good bar, as the names previews, it has two sections one with hip hop music and another separate room with Latin music.  It was a lot of fun, even though it was never super crowded.  The Latin area was good also but not too many people in it, the DJ needs improvement he was playing a lot of old songs (if you enjoy Latin music you may want to suggest him some). 
• Trinity: Largest club outside of Fort Leonard Wood. Country/Rock out front and a second Dj/Dance club in the back. We went directly to the back, Hip Hop the entire night, nice environment, it wasn't that full though.
• Johnny G's: this is a bar with a small dance floor, cheap drinks, nice people.  We went here mostly because of the DJ's, which is a friend of ours.  If you are lucky and he is playing, you will have a blast.
• Community pool: neither my bf or me can remember the name of this place, but it was the local pool, we paid 3 dollars to get in.  Family environment, but there are some amenities and its cool for tanning and having a different moment. 
• Souvenirs hunting: we just rolled, haha.  We drove around looking for yard sales or flee market.  We didn’t buy anything but had a good time just looking around and taking weird / funny pics.
• Elbow Inn Bar and BBQ: Devils Elbow, Missouri is an unincorporated community in Pulaski County on historic US Highway Route 66. It is situated on the Big Piney River and was named for a particularly bad place in the river known as a "devil of an elbow". It is about five miles (8 km) east of St. Roberts.Many bras have been tacked to its ceiling by free spirits traveling old Route 66 haha, maybe you dare.  It is full of bikers so don’t think on going there with your nicest clothe; the day we went there they were on a bday with free food for all.  There is a visitor’s book where you get to sign; there were a lot of people from around the world.  The pen was missing, so take one with you.

• Historic Route 66: for a foreign like me this was a shock: the ultra famous Route 66 breaks through neighborhoods! and it can get super narrow at some points.   It was fascinating to finally see the Mother Road. 

• Big Lois: yes, an stripper club.  I had my reservations about this, I did not know how I would handle it, if I was going to get jealous or what exactly was going to happened there.  So we talked it out before getting in: he didn’t get to do sh%^it, but me.  So, yes, I put my money out and pum! I got me lap dance, and the girl did not take my money! It was fun, a bit embarrassing  though (I bet my face was the rarest) but fun. I could do it again
• Sonic: this was very romantic, he wanted to take me for a smoothie like the old times, we ordered and drank it the truck.
• Dairy Queen
• Movies 
• Catfish for lunch: my bf wanted to take me there for the catfish, the best one ever he said...it was good :) at the entrance there was a big map of the world, and people got to pin mark their countries.
• Chicken bones (restaurant)
• Buffalo Wild wings (restaurant)

Springfield:

• Midnight Rodeo: my bf is (or he thinks he is) a cowboy and since early in our relationship he wanted to take me to a country music club, and so he did.  It was a blast! I’m Latina and I don’t know anything about dancing country but it was amazing just immerging in the deep America.
• Lamp lighter in: This is the hotel we stayed at, well-located, friendly staff and very clean.  It was just crossing the street from the Midnight Rodeo, so we could drink all we want and just walk home by the end of the night.
• Nakoto Japanese Steakhouse and Sushi bar: it has a sizzling Hibachi grill and a sushi bar, you will surely be entertained and satisfied at the dining Japanese restaurant as you watch your food being prepared before your eyes.  It’s a little bit expensive but the food is tasty.
• Bass Pro Shops: It is an outdoor retail leader in hunting, camping, nature gifts, outdoor cooking...it was a stop, just looking around.  He wanted to buy me a knife :s  they have animals in exhibition, like turtles, and a aquarium.  Also, some fake (or dissected, I cant be sure) animals that you can take some good pics with.
• Battlefield mall: this is where we went for cowgirl shopping, nice stores here.  Got my boots at a good price.
• The Worlds largest gift store: yes, its super big.  If you are in need to buy some souvenirs for the family this is the place.  Here we found my cowgirl hat. 

This took me forever to post, I wanted it to be perfect but I decided to just post it! if you have any questions or want to know more about one of these places, leave me a message here.  

Have a nice one!

SEMPER FI.

P.S. Getting ready to fly and see my bf tomorrow :) so please, forgive any misspelling <3

When I Got to See Him for the First Time

And it was a storm indeed.  It was a high-risk trip, I was finally going to see him after more than a year.  What was really going to happen?  Would he be the same? Was he going to act the same?

You see ladies, me and my bf met in a very non-conventional way, for some very romantic, for others a way that would never work.

As the days came nearer I wasn't showing any emotions at all, for the trip or for talking to him, for that matter.  It was a weird combination of exhaustion and really not believing I was finally going to see him.  When we first began planning the trip we thought that the fact that I had a lot of things to do the month before the trip was going to be great (for me) since the time was going to fly by.  The thing is that yes indeed, the time flew but with that came physical and emotional wear.  Besides all the things I had to do I had to make sure I talked to him every day, sometimes I only had 5 mins to talk to him during the day.  That created pressure on me since I knew he needed me and wanted to talk to me, so trying to keep up with my daily activities and taking care of him just wore me out.  By the time everything ended, almost by the end of June, I was done...tired, unmotivated.  I didn't even want to talk to him.  I would try to explain myself there: it was not that I did not want to talk to him, I just didn't want to talk to anybody.  I wanted to close my curtains and sleep, deep sleep until I couldn't sleep anymore.  Even though the big event that I had to help taking care of before the trip was done, I still had to do stuff for myself, and that prevented me from doing the sleeping/resting thing...that and that he did not like when I told him I needed time (not talking to him).  That was a stupid thing from my part, asking him this, but that was the result of fatigue.  He like to talk for hours with me which I like too but I wasn't in the mood, I explained him I did want to talk to him but that 15 mins was a good amount of time, that I did not want to spend hours talking but I also said I wanted a weekend off, off from him.  I didn't want to feel the pressure of "having" to call him every day, I wanted to feel like I was in control again. Well ladies, he did not buy that, he gave me a big "ARE YOU CRAZY?".  So we talked about it and even though he did not yield I began to feel good again.

The days before the trip I did all the beauty things I could while in a super tight budget.  Exfoliation of the entire body and moisturizer for my hair.  I wanted to wax too but the days previous I got my period so that was not going to be possible (also, it is very expensive to do this where I live so I was considering not to anyways).

So the day came and I had to travel.  I did not feel anxious at all, that was weird.  I woke up with enough time to do all the preparations.  I took 3 planes to get to him, and while landing on my last destination (after almost loosing one connection) I thought I was going to see him after the baggage claim area, so I was walking careless, not expecting to see him any time soon.

If I had thought about it I would of been in a whirlwind of emotions.  You see the fact that I had never seen him in person was something to worry about.  Yes, we have done thousands of video calls, pics, letters, voice note, you name it.  But what If I didn't like him? physically? What if when I see him I did not like him?  I loved his personality, that was for sure, after one year interacting as a couple I was sure I knew him well enough but love is more than that, I need to like him physically.  What about the sexual part of the relationship? would we be a match? would we have chemistry?

"AAwww"...said the girl waking in front of me.  There he was, a 6 foot tall man with a sign waving at me.  What the hell was he doing there? Shouldn't I've seen him after baggage claim?